Cohesion. Cohesion is all about healthy families
and positive, supportive interaction. Barber,
Brian, & Buehler (2001)
describe family cohesion as “shared affection, support, helpfulness, and caring
among family members” (Barber et al., 2001, paragraph #2). When couples have an
abundance of these positive characteristics in their marriages, they are more
satisfied with their relationship and have healthy family functioning, like
meeting goals and avoiding conflict. Cohesion does not mean fusion or loss of
individuality. “For effective family functioning, it is believed that distance
regulation needs to provide experiences of both intimacy and individuality”
(Bartle-Haring, Younkin & Day 2012, page 2). In table 1 you can see the
positive correlation between healthy relationships and high cohesion.
Enmeshment. Enmeshment is not just extreme cohesion,
it is a measure of completely different characteristics of relationships. Table
1 also shows the negative correlation between enmeshment and healthy family
functioning. Barber et al. (2001) describe enmeshment as “family patterns that
facilitate psychological and emotional fusion among family members, potentially
inhibiting the individuation process and the development and maintenance of
psychosocial maturity” (page 1). In other words, enmeshment is coercion,
control, constraint, manipulation, intrusion, and fusion. It is too much
involvement and forbiddance of individuation or open communication. This lack
of boundaries is harmful because family members will internalize or externalize
this unhealthy interaction which often transforms into problematic behaviors
like aggression or depression.
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